And in response to Anon, who made the much welcomed, wise and extremely helpful comment that I was hoping for... I will repeat my response here:
"Thank-you. You're absolutely right, and your advice sounds like it would work extremely well for me.
Would you believe I have been eyeing up a journal, and already have the fabulous pen at hand?
Exercising after journaling is a very sensible nugget of advice too - I've been trying to decide between the gym or yoga (unfortunately, health problems restrict how much I can run, if at all).
In all, thank-you. I did actually brave it and have that dramatic conversation, and it actually turned out quite well - we have both opened up more after we discussed both of our issues, and are now approaching things in a healthier way. I no longer feel the urge to overwhelm or push for intimacy, and she has taken 2 steps towards me instead of 10 steps back. I really would like to take things slowly, just to see where I'm going, and not worry about my feelings all the time. Something I somehow feel more able to do after we spoke and chilled out by the beach over the weekend...
It's nice... I know it's not forever, but I also know I'm enjoying myself now, with not so much self-imposed pressure and understandable back-off from her...
Here's hoping eh...?"
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